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The "Good Thanks" of the "How Are You?"

Heading home from Palm Cove today. What a beautiful place to spend New Years. The first part of the holiday was kind of horrible to be honest with you.

I could say that everything was perfect, but then I’d be lying.

Some of us become a little like a piece of driftwood at times, floating down the river…

“How are you?”

“Good thanks.”

How many times do we respond on autopilot to this type of question?

How many of us hide it underneath layers of everything is just fine when we are in physical or emotional pain, whilst thanking the other person very much for asking. We shush our soul, even though it is absolutely screaming for us to say more.

Have you ever been asked “How are you?” and responded “Well actually, I’m not so great,” or something similar. I have. I say it as it is here and there when life ain’t so wonderful, and then observe what happens.

It makes for some interesting interactions, as people are so very used to the standard type of responses. It can cause people to be more present when they receive an honest answer, because it wakes them up to the reality of the question they just asked.

If you typically go on autopilot when responding to this question, then perhaps try to observe the ways in which you respond.

If you decide to change up your response here and there, then observe any shifts in the energy both inside and outside yourself as you do.

If either person hasn’t yet learned to hold space for the other, the mood has the potential to shift in that moment.

So many of us haven’t been taught emotional intelligence.

Society teaches us to avoid leaning into certain types of emotions, because they are not socially acceptable.

Society teaches us to lean into mostly surface level interactions, to avoid feeling crappy, or getting hurt.

I am a Reiki Healer. Immediately after the attunements for both Level 1 and Level 2 I did a major purge of a whole heap of anger, rage and resentment that had been sitting within my energetic body for who knows how long. My goodness, there was a lot.

We could spend our entire life pretending everything is absolutely fine, yet be in great pain underneath all of those layers.

I’m quite certain I’m not the only one who repressed my anger all those years. This being the case, imagine if we all chose to heal that - as opposed to continuing to carry it with.

Blessings to you today. May any anger, rage, or resentment you are still carrying be healed. If you haven’t yet found a type of emotional balance that cannot be shaken, may it become available to you.

I wish you all so very much love, peace, abundance, happiness and fulfilment. May 2023 be the most beautiful year yet. One full of love, growth and healing.

~ Rachel Reeves

This content is created by Rachel Reeves, who has always been a deep thinker. She previously played the supporting role in the lives of those around her, and very much held back on sharing this gift fully with other's. This is Rachel stepping very much out of her comfort zone, into what she now knows to be her inner calling, and sharing her thoughts with the world.


This video and/or article is intended to support self-growth, but the information provided is to be taken as personal opinion only. Feel free to take what resonates, but use your own inner-wisdom and guidance when doing so -- you know yourself much better than anybody else ever will. The information provided is to be in no way regarded as Medical, Legal, or Financial Advice. Please seek professional advice where needed. Thank you.

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