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Putting Down the Mask – Living Authentically & Finding Happiness

Updated: Jan 12, 2022

Why do we wear these masks? The truth of the matter is that many of us accept these masks as part of a generational curse, handed down by our parents. Our ancestors learned that wearing a mask was what was safe and best, and so they teach their children, who then teach their children, and so on, and so forth – and so that curse continues.

We allow pride to get in the way of our authenticity. And as children we are guided by our parents, teachers, and others we look up to. We learn to conform with the hope to be accepted. We build up strong protective armour within, so that we won’t get hurt. We start to carry the burdens of the world upon us and start to feel their weight. As we get older, we perhaps continue to conform, with the hope to be accepted – but if we are not living in our truth, we feel this push and pull within. Our authenticity fights for its place. It fights to emerge and push its way out into the light.

As we pridefully wear that mask of conformity and control we must be mindful that we are creating karma moving forwards. The truth is that our main goal in life has become to maintain control and order, and to perhaps fight to be seen in this world. But if we fight to be seen while wearing a mask, are we truly being seen? Is it possible to live authentically while strictly trying to maintain control and order?

Sometimes when we think we are being authentic we still wear a mask to some degree. To put it down completely feels scary to us – it means we must be extremely raw and vulnerable. Society teaches us that it is inherently bad to be this way. But if we desire true happiness, authenticity is the path we must take.

We need to focus, as a society, on celebrating what is raw and real.

If more and more of us step into our power and become raw and real – then we can make a much bigger impact out in the world. I shine the light on this important topic of dropping our guard and becoming truly authentic.

As we work towards healing from our wounds, and becoming our most authentic self, we realise what it is to be truly free. The bigger perspective is, each time one more person does the work, and takes off that mask, it has a snowball effect out in the world.

As more and more of us live authentically, others wonder what makes us tick. Perhaps they will recognise that it is because we have put down that mask of pride, conformity, and control; and we are living authentically and in our truth. And that we have cleared our mind to the point we can observe our thoughts, and then consider what is for the highest good of all. When we have reached this point, we have a strong desire to make the world a better place for others.

If we live through ego, we create a life of anger, frustration, envy, sadness, and disappointment. When we live in this way our thoughts and emotions are front and centre. We aim for the positive, but we attract lessons instead, and so have this tendency to attract the negative. And then we are left wondering why it is that lessons from the universe keep being sent.

I have found that the universe keeps sending us lessons if needed to encourage us to let go of ego, be authentic and live in our truth. A lesson I personally learned was that the only way I can obtain what I felt to be unobtainable was to have faith, and let go. For me personally celebrating what is raw and real has helped me to find balance, stability, authenticity, abundance, love and light.

The truth is, we are not our thoughts or our emotions.

If we sit quietly observing our thoughts and emotions for just a little while, we can start to understand what we put ourselves through.

For example, are we other people’s judgements? I used to think so. People would do or say things, and I would then ponder on these things for hours, or days, or months, or years, or even decades. Why did I do this? Because I was trying to find a way to process what had been said or done. I was also trying to work out how I could have done things better, so that I had more awareness for next time. And I was trying to figure how I could protect myself, and no longer attract those lessons. But the truth is, what has happened has happened; what will be will be – and the only thing I can control is what I put out into the universe today.

While it important to sometimes ponder, it is also important to resolve things. If we are not resolving things, then why not? Every single one of us will meet pain at some point in our lifetime. Some meet pain more than others. But the truth is there is only one person who can look at and resolve that pain.

I don’t regret the time I spent pondering in the past. If I had not, I wouldn't have such a good understanding of myself or be here today speaking my truth. I still ponder, as it is a part of my nature – but I have learned to do it in a very different way. I live life consciously; and I am kind to myself. I take short breaks where needed to observe my thoughts and emotions. I release the past where needed, as it only holds space in my life if I allow it to. Once I have looked at it, and taken from it the lesson I need, it has served its purpose in my life. And I make a decision that comes from within; and I have faith that all will work out just fine. As I do this, I am realising that I am become more and more confident in my actions. I am making decisions faster and faster.

Those who know me know that this is a huge step forward for me, and I am very thankful.

I used to be riddled with negative thoughts and emotions. I used to worry what other people thought of me. I used to live in a constant state of anxiety, and I used to fall into a deep depression at times.

I have been systematically letting go. I put down one burden, and I see another that needs to be looked at. But I continue to lighten my load and are moving towards a place of happiness, stability and abundance.

Understand that others may not like it, as we go through this change.

Especially those close to us. They are so used to us wearing the mask. We start to live and speak authentically, and the fact that we are so raw and real is scary to them. Why is it scary? Perhaps it will force them to make some adjustments to continue to belong, or maybe even force them to look at themselves. Be aware that they might push against it, but you have a choice. You can either choose to move forwards, or to go back. I don’t know about others, but once I have moved forwards, I cannot go back. But the truth of the matter is, if we go through life wearing that mask, then we cease too truly live. We pretend. We become somebody we are not.

What does it matter if we cry? So long as we are real. What does it matter if we speak the words that need to be spoken? So long as we are real. As I see it, it is our purpose to work towards becoming our most authentic and best version of ourselves. But if we are not raw and real, we fail to become this. It's time to take off that mask!

We need to be willing to not only do the inner work, but we need to be willing to observe and grow.

The only way we can truly step into our power and become our most authentic self is if we are mindful of and observe our thoughts; and give consideration also to the other persons perspective. As we start doing the inner work, we learn to observe things from a birds eye point of view. That moment I realised that people either live from a place of pain and trauma, or they live from a place of enlightenment and growth was one of the most lifechanging and freeing moments for me. To understand that life is full of lessons and growth; and that these lessons are not happening to us but for us, is the only way we can find true happiness. We are all here to shine our light out into the word, but we must first accept this as our path.

I wish you so many blessings as you open up to doing that inner work. Ask whoever is your guiding force for clarity as you observe and grow; with a view to becoming your most raw, real and authentic self.

Photo by Marco Secchi on Unsplash

This content is created by Rachel Reeves, who has always been a deep thinker. She previously played the supporting role in the lives of those around her, and very much held back on sharing this gift fully with other's. This is Rachel stepping very much out of her comfort zone, into what she now knows to be her inner calling, and sharing her thoughts with the world.


This article is intended to support self-growth, but the information provided is to be taken as personal opinion only. Feel free to take what resonates, but use your own inner-wisdom and guidance when doing so -- you know yourself much better than anybody else ever will. The information provided is to be in no way regarded as Medical, Legal, or Financial Advice. Please seek professional advice where needed. Thank you.

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