People seldom speak about their hurt, or their pain, and they become quite good at hiding it. Some perhaps feel it deeper than others when they sit within their shadow. As we heal and grow and strip away those layers, we start to feel things at a much deeper, more profound level. As we dig beneath the surface, we start to gain great clarity about the masks that are worn both by us and by others.
Masks are sometimes needed as they protect us. With a view to keep ourselves ‘safe’ from that pain and trauma, masks can also keep us stuck.
At what point do we start to see the pain and the burdens that we have picked up along the way? Some burdens we place upon ourselves. Others have been intentionally or unintentionally placed upon us by others.
Consider the fact that sometimes burdens might be onboarded due to our own pride, or as a remedy to allow others to maintain their pride. The cost can be great when one tries to maintain their own pride to save face, or support others in doing the same.
As we dig deeper and deeper beneath the surface, we start to clearly separate out what is ours to carry, and what is the other persons. We can see that we don’t need to give the pain that others try and place upon us back to them, but we also see that we don’t need to onboard it as our own.
Without even realising we start to alchemise that pain into a healthier, more beautiful, and innocent kind of love for the other. We learn to love every soul more deeply and unconditionally. We start to do so, even for those who have tried to manipulate, control, or hate on us in the past.
This doesn’t mean we must physically accept them back into our life. Their pain also does not have to be our burden to carry. But alchemising this pain allows us to forgive the other person, have compassion for them, and let go of an internal need to simmer on that which can now be put behind us. The benefits to us as a person are great. It allows us to heal those deep inner wounds and find a peace within that perhaps we thought would never be possible. It allows us to refocus our energy on the present and that which is most important.
My thought is that there is beauty within the soul of every living being, no matter how deeply it is currently hidden. Within some people this beauty is simply locked up for the moment; due to the pain, trauma, and burdens that they haven’t yet figured out how to put down. At the point I accepted this as my truth, it allowed for me to have compassion on others in any given situation.
Could it be that those who have difficulty feeling empathy have hidden it so deep beneath that pain; that it has become inaccessible. Perhaps it has become unlikely they will uncover this empathy, simply because they refuse to look at the pain they carry within, as they are worried about what might happen if they do. They feel this need to have others around them, and so they do what is logically required with a view to keep others around, whilst avoiding the need to look at this pain.
As we start to not only look back at our past, but also consider our present and our future, we start to realise that life doesn’t need to be perfect. In fact, life will likely never be perfect.
Those imperfections are quite simply lessons guiding us towards the light that we hold within our very being. The imperfections in life help us to see what we must see, so that we can upgrade our wisdom consciousness, and step into our light in an increasingly powerful way. Could it be that what we perhaps view as a failure, could also be seen as a springboard to our success? What I have realised over time is that we frame things in the way that we personally choose to frame them.
It therefore becomes important that we learn to accept the imperfections that come with simply being. We can allow those imperfections to guide us into darkness, or we can allow them to shine a light on that which we still need to see.
I look back through my life and see just how far I've come. I would encourage you to do the same. I have put down many burdens. It can be such a struggle to release that which no longer serves us. I appreciate the wisdom and understand that I have picked up along the way, due to lives imperfections. I'm learning to go with the flow of who I am and with the flow of my intuition. I'm not sure I would have reached this level of soul consciousness if everything around me had been perfect. Because of this, I can give thanks for those imperfections that have been placed in my path. Looking back, I would not change a thing, as the lessons have bought me to where I am at right now.
Some might perhaps suggest that I have not changed for the better, because I am no longer willing to keep them comfortable. Personally I feel that I have changed for the better, as I have embraced the lessons as they were presented to me. I have embraced self-love, self-care and authenticity. I am humbly confident; my imperfections humble me. But I now choose to give them only enough energy to allow them to humble me, not to break my confidence. Embracing and allowing those imperfections to be, whilst practising putting down this need to overanalyse and control what happens around us, helps to guide us towards a greater sense of happiness, abundance and stability.
This content is created by Rachel Reeves, who has always been a deep thinker. She previously played the supporting role in the lives of those around her, and very much held back on sharing this gift fully with other's. This is Rachel stepping very much out of her comfort zone, into what she now knows to be her inner calling, and sharing her thoughts with the world.
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