I used to think unconditional love meant simply showing up for the other person from a place of love time and time again. No matter what they did. No matter how they hurt me. No matter how they chose to show up.
My understanding of love used to be that it should be void of expectation.
Oddly, I still had an expectation that people should treat me right, yet they would quite often show me different.
A pattern was offered to me in different ways, through multiple different people. I was honestly hammered by the lesson, until I saw what it was I needed to see.
The lesson was not only about self-love and self-worth. It was also about people pleasing, self-sacrifice and control.
Within my logical mind I had nurtured a narrative that people weren’t treating me right, because I wasn’t worthy of being treated right. This was never the truth. The truth is that I offered them the key to my energetic door, and allowed them to take up residence there. I became the step ladder. The doormat. And gave away my power. Ouch. A harsh truth.
The reason? I was quite honestly scared that those within my life would leave me and I would have nobody. It was a control thing.
As I sit more and more within the vibration of self-love, I have realised that many people don’t see their true value and worth. Often people seek validation and worth through others – as opposed to finding it within themselves.
Our value is significantly increased at the point we no longer seek validation from others – and we take the necessary steps to make good with ourselves.
Have you ever looked at a person, and gone "Wow. What is it about that person? How are they doing that?"
Sometimes we observe a beautiful shift in those around us, simply because of our own beautiful shift. Our words become much more powerful when we speak from a place of love and respect for both ourselves and for the other.
Other times people, places and situations that are not for us fall away. That doesn't mean that person is bad, and there's really no need to label them as such. When that happens, it also doesn't make either party a failure.
We're not necessarily here for the same reason. We're not always going to get along perfectly. And that's OK.
These days, I have certain expectations of how people might show up within my life, yet at the same time I have no expectation at all. It’s an odd feeling. I would love to hear whether others have felt this same way.
That love that one gives. It is beautiful. It is valuable. But is it for everyone? Do we NEED to adjust? Sometimes. That's where self-awareness comes in.
Life is not about dimming our light in order to keep everybody around us comfortable. We are here to figure out the lesson, whatever that is – so that we can create something better.
Sometimes that lesson is to learn to stand in one’s power. To speak and become our truth. To be our beautifully awesome self in that moment. To let go of expectations and then see what happens.
Love and blessings to you today and always ❤️🧡💛
~ Rachel Reeves
This content is created by Rachel Reeves, who has always been a deep thinker. She previously played the supporting role in the lives of those around her, and very much held back on sharing this gift fully with other's. This is Rachel stepping very much out of her comfort zone, into what she now knows to be her inner calling, and sharing her thoughts with the world.
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