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Pain Holds A Secret Gift | The Blessing and The Curse

Over time pain has become my friend. It holds a secret gift. But this gift is only seen at the point we are ready to see it. It is a gift that is only available to those who accept. This is a gift that pretends that pain is a curse, until such time as we see it as a gift. Pain has this way of creating a general feeling of ickiness within our being.

Sure, it can most definitely look like and feel like a curse, but is it a curse? This is all a matter of perspective. We see things through the lens we have created over time.

So many people point out that pain offers us gifts of strength and perseverance. I totally agree that these are some gifts that may be offered through pain. BUT as a person faces adversity, they start to wonder just how much strength and perseverance might be required. They start to look back on all their hurts and ponder on this question, “Why me?”

For those who have chosen at some point to embrace pain head on, or have even had it forced upon them, they will be blessed with the secret gift of soul growth. Without pain, one does not even begin to understand the difference between conditional and unconditional love. And without pain, we won’t experience that feeling of the weight being lifted off our shoulders as we release. What would be the rhyme or reason for embracing the depths of life if pain did not exist? Would life continue to hold meaning and purpose without it?

What might we reach for if pain no longer took part in the equation? Would life become only half the experience? Would it even continue to be half the experience, or would happiness and fulfilment be lost amongst more of the same?

Would we become puppets or robots? Would our need for choices dissipate without pain? What is happiness if we have never experienced feeling sad?

I observe this avoidance of pain in this world, yet pain can become our friend if we allow it. Might we stay stuck where we are at if we remain comfortable? Does pain perhaps offer us some beautiful nuggets of wisdom, that would not be available to us if we weren’t given the opportunity to experience it?

Pain used to be the enemy. It used to take over my whole entire existence. At some point I realised that I had allowed this pain to engulf me. I used this knowledge to first make some small adjustments within my day. As I made these small adjustments, it built my confidence up. As I made these smaller adjustments, I gradually became less and less fearful of those bigger adjustments. These adjustments have become my building blocks to a much more stable foundation. They focus on nurturing my inner child back to good health.

We can become our pain, but we don’t have to. If we seek to find solace amongst that pain, might it perhaps help if we are to observe the ebb and flow within our very being? Might it help to understand this pain and find a way to heal from it? And in healing from it, might we draw some wisdom from these lessons. Imagine our potential if we focus on the wisdom that is available through healing that pain; with a view that we might then apply this wisdom across all areas of life.

And so, I sit with this thought that my pain is now my blessing and my friend. I make this choice to set healthy boundaries with my pain. I allow this pain to be present in my life, so that it can shine a light on those lessons I am here to learn. It is here to support me in my soul growth. BUT it is not allowed to take over, as I am not here to experience just pain. I am here to experience the beautiful array of emotions that life has to offer.

This content is created by Rachel Reeves, who has always been a deep thinker. She previously played the supporting role in the lives of those around her, and very much held back on sharing this gift fully with other's. This is Rachel stepping very much out of her comfort zone, into what she now knows to be her inner calling, and sharing her thoughts with the world.


This video and article is intended to support self-growth, but the information provided is to be taken as personal opinion only. Feel free to take what resonates, but use your own inner-wisdom and guidance when doing so -- you know yourself much better than anybody else ever will. The information provided is to be in no way regarded as Medical, Legal, or Financial Advice. Please seek professional advice where needed. Thank you.

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