Shining Our Light amidst Unhealthy Behaviours and Toxic Patterns

People have this tendency to mirror back to us our own subconscious thoughts, and our own limitations of self. We can choose to put on the hat of the victim, or we can choose to learn and heal through what we attract.

I have been called many things. It has been suggested that I am thick, stupid, slow, heavy, fat, a bad salesperson or communicator. I have been told I have bad English and grammar. I acknowledge these labels, but no longer make them my truth. We all speak words to either uplift or degrade those who surround us.

I have also been told I am very loving, kind, and compassionate; and have been told I carry a great wisdom within me. I have been told I have great passion.

I have reached this beautiful place where I can sit within love whether a person chooses to uplift or degrade me. I could attach it to myself as a truth, I could make myself a victim – or I can accept what is in front of me and look at what still needs to be healed. Because the truth is, that our triggers shine a light on what we still need to heal within ourselves. By focusing on what I still need to heal within myself, I go with the ebb and flow of life – and shift my focus to the solution; instead of focusing on what is wrong with myself or the other.

At first it hurts to look at our triggers and shine a light on what needs to be healed within. As we nurture our own garden, we create a secure and firm foundation deep within ourselves – a stability that cannot be knocked, no matter how much another person tries to ‘poke the bear’. At that point it is neither here nor there how another perceives us, as we have a deep inner-knowing and respect for who we are within.

This is not to say that we should spend a lot of time around those who ‘poke the bear’ within us. If we do, then eventually the vibration of one or the other will be forced to change. We can hope that the other might grow with us. But sometimes when one is ready, but the other is not, this can create toxic behaviours within the relationship.

The interesting thing is that our light is sometimes also our darkness. While one might reject a certain part of us, another might wholeheartedly accept and appreciate this same thing within us.

It could be that what others say about me is true, but what I know is that I am perfect just as I am, as are you.

I am quite intuitive, and I have realised that I do not need to look to others to work out the adjustment that must be made to who I am as a person. I am realising that when I personally need to make an adjustment, a beautiful light will at some point be shone on this aspect of myself. I have realised that if I go with the flow of who I am I will learn the lessons that I must learn in this lifetime. If I go against the flow, then I dim my light once again.

Be mindful that you are not dimming your light in response to the words or actions of another. If you are, then it may be time to nurture yourself as a person. Each of us only break free from the chains or patterns of the past when we are personally ready.

This content is created by Rachel Reeves, who has always been a deep thinker. She previously played the supporting role in the lives of those around her, and very much held back on sharing this gift fully with other's. This is Rachel stepping very much out of her comfort zone, into what she now knows to be her inner calling, and sharing her thoughts with the world.


This video and article is intended to support self-growth, but the information provided is to be taken as personal opinion only. Feel free to take what resonates, but use your own inner-wisdom and guidance when doing so -- you know yourself much better than anybody else ever will. The information provided is to be in no way regarded as Medical, Legal, or Financial Advice. Please seek professional advice where needed. Thank you.

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