“Why is success not for me?”
Sitting with that question I was transported back to a moment in time. It was back in my early 20s. I had two options available to me. I was acutely aware I was about to make a decision that would have a powerful influence on my life.
Mentors are extremely impactful. Never forget that.
Particularly in our younger years, we look towards certain people for guidance.
A mentor might be someone who has gained our respect over time. Other times we can become enmeshed in the others way of thinking and being.
In that moment, I was offered a new possibility by one of my mentors. I could continue along the same road. Or I could choose this new road that was being presented to me by this person.
The path that she offered, it was the superior one – at least in her eyes. This person placed an enormous amount of value on working hard; and suggested this as being the best way to reach greater levels of success in one’s career.
She often placed career and ‘getting ahead’ way up there on a pedestal, which is not necessarily a bad thing. But we all think and perceive the world in a certain type of way. We are all different.
At the time, she was probably the age I am now. I was young and impressionable.
I had an amazing amount of respect for this person. In my eyes, she made life look easy.
That moment she offered this beautiful opportunity to get ahead, I observed the silent expectation that I should be grabbing at it with both hands and hanging on tight. But I didn’t.
I could see beyond the sacrifice I would be required to make in order to grab this opportunity with both hands. It would require a great sacrifice of time, which would disallow me to truly enjoy life for all that it was in that moment.
She spun it in such a way that one must either choose family AND life – or choose their career. She quite strongly suggested it could not be both.
My response to the offer that she made went something like this:
“I’m going to have to turn your offer down. For me, family and being able to truly live life is much more important than money or career.”
Whilst this might look like a seemingly normal response, I’ve only just had the epiphany that how that situation played out has caused certain blocks for me surrounding success. I not only carried those words, but I carried consequences of those words for a good 20 years.
I’ve carried with me for far too long the mentality that you can either have a successful career OR you can be blessed with love and life – but you can’t have both. Why not?
All these years, my subconscious mind has been pushing away financial abundance and career success because in my mind it would mean that I would be required to sacrifice love, life and authenticity.
Aries Sun and Rising. Pisces moon. I’ve always felt like a boss lady. I’ve always felt like I’m meant to do something BIG with my life.
BUT I ended up picking up the burden that said that abundance and energy are limited.
Why can’t we have one AND the other?
Thinking we cannot. It’s simply the conditioning of the world.
And this thought that we must work stupidly hard to get ahead is also the conditioning of the world.
I choose to release unhelpful conditioning such as this. It’s only my truth so long as I make it my truth. I shift myself to a new paradigm, where success in all areas of my life is within reach.
One of the mottos I live by is “Everything is always working out in my favour.”
Sometimes I start to question whether this is in fact true.
But then I realise that I’m panning for gold. I notice the slight flicker reflected in the sunlight which brings me back to the understanding that “Yes, everything is always working out in my favour.”
My shadow and melancholy is all part of my essence and my beauty. I have never been afraid of my shadow. Though it gets a little much at times.
I could spend my life wearing positive affirmations as a mask. Or I can choose to look at what NEEDS to be looked at, so I can release unhelpful conditioning – and shift myself to something better.
I choose to embrace my shadow as a beautiful part of myself.
I choose to dance with it, as opposed to pretending it's not there.
I now love both my light and my shadow with equal measure.
I look at and see the reflection of what is and what was. I see what I need to see. That way I can release that which needs to be released and choose something better.
Blessings to you my friend. I'll speak to you again soon no doubt.
~ Rachel Reeves
This content is created by Rachel Reeves, who has always been a deep thinker. She previously played the supporting role in the lives of those around her, and very much held back on sharing this gift fully with other's. This is Rachel stepping very much out of her comfort zone, into what she now knows to be her inner calling, and sharing her thoughts with the world.
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