I don't believe a healthy ego is a bad thing, yet some seem to suggest that it is. It is partially through ego that I write this today.
Anybody who has been a people pleaser has probably set aside their ego in many situations, with a view that they might avoid conflict. I used to be told I was "too kind" and things of that nature.
Have you ever noticed that some people are not sure how to integrate their lost ego, when they go on a search to find it again? It has a tendency to show up in a kind of over-inflated type of way to start with. We go through a 'testing faze' and we tend to over-adjust in certain situations.
If a person has an over-inflated ego, there is no doubt that at some point they will be offered a mirror reflection of themselves, with a view that their ego might deflate back to a healthy level.
Not everybody sees the lesson though.
Some time back I had quite a heated debate with somebody who, in my eyes, was standing in her ego. She was projecting her belief systems very strongly onto other people. At the time I'm pretty sure I quite successfully matched her ego, lol.
The interesting thing is, it generally doesn't tend to end how we hope it might end when we try to match ego with ego. I got quite angry and frustrated at this person.
After some back and forth I ended up taking a good step back.
I decided to take my dog, Zeus, for a walk, with a view that through exercise I might clear my mind and gain some clarity on the situation.
By the time I returned home I could see that I had shown up quite strongly in my ego and was mirroring the ego of the other.
I chose very consciously to apologise to this person, but in that moment it was more for my benefit than for hers. It shifted me out of the situation in a way that was right for me.
Basically I took accountability for my portion of the interaction and detached from needing to fix the other person. I took the lesson and left everything else at the door.
She thanked me for my apology and went about her day. I'm not sure she saw anything wrong with her behaviour. Thankfully I had already managed to detach from any expectations of her. I could see quite clearly that she was showing up the best way she knew how in that moment.
We had already butted heads. I'm pretty sure I would have placed more fuel on the fire if I had started pointing fingers - even if I did so in a kind way. She was a complete stranger and it was unlikely I would ever come across her again. I had actually shone a light on what was to be learned through my own apology. The ball was now in her court. If she wasn't ready to take the lesson, then at some point she would be sent a further lesson - until such time as she took the lesson.
I had personally gone through a number of situations similar to this around the same time, so I knew without doubt that there was a lesson within this situation.
Because I chose to reflect on how I was showing up within my conversations, I started to move in a different way. If I had something to say and felt intuitively drawn to say it, then I chose to speak those words with confidence. But because of this experience and others, my words became more neutral and less offensive.
If we are constantly butting heads with those around us, then might we need to reflect on how we are personally showing up?
To show up in a way that says, "This is me, I have something that I believe is important to say" is awesome and very necessary. But if we don't take a step back and view things through the others lens for just a moment - then might we create situations where our ego clashes quite strongly with the other.
BUT my thought is that if we try to get rid of our ego completely, it would put us in the 5D, would it not?
As I personally see it, we are here for a lived experience.
Some escape more into the 5D and work to detach themselves from everything. It's fine if some choose to do this. Perhaps it's their calling - and in my eyes they're not hurting anybody in doing so. In fact, they often offer some beautiful and very wise insights, if we are graced with their presence.
I also don't see any issue with living mostly in the 3D and going on a journey to figure out how to balance our ego. We are all here for different reasons. I believe I am here to learn about unconditional love, independence and unity amongst other things. I'm not personally afraid to heal quite publicly.
If all those who are doing the work were to choose to ascend completely into the 5D, I believe certain people would be left in the dust.
Not everybody is ready to listen to that person who is floating somewhere above the clouds...
And not everybody desires to be floating somewhere above the clouds...
I believe there is value in sitting somewhere in the middle. I personally choose to embrace the lived experience, yet I see myself as a spiritual being as well.
The beauty lies in this thought that we all have the opportunity to choose our experience.
What does that look like for you?
"I lost my ego somewhere in the wilderness at some point. I'm so glad I found it again... otherwise I would still be living in the shadow of the other." ~ Rachel Reeves
This content is created by Rachel Reeves, who has always been a deep thinker. She previously played the supporting role in the lives of those around her, and very much held back on sharing this gift fully with other's. This is Rachel stepping very much out of her comfort zone, into what she now knows to be her inner calling, and sharing her thoughts with the world.
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